Friday, February 1, 2008 | 2:53 PM | 0 Comments
Yethu varai vazhakkai alaikkiratho,
Athu varai naanum sendriduvom..
Vidai perum neram vanthalum,
Sirippinil nandri solliduvom
We shall go to wherever life brings us to...
Even wen it's time to say goodbye, say thanks with a smile...
its not over yet.. but it soon wld be...
we had many common things among us.
he loves black n white. i love dem too..
he loves chicken rice. i love it too..
he loves to joke and tease ppl. i love doing tt too..
he loves me. i love him too..
hes gonna go on his separate way. i have to go on my own separate way too..
Athu varai naanum sendriduvom..
Vidai perum neram vanthalum,
Sirippinil nandri solliduvom
We shall go to wherever life brings us to...
Even wen it's time to say goodbye, say thanks with a smile...
its not over yet.. but it soon wld be...
we had many common things among us.
he loves black n white. i love dem too..
he loves chicken rice. i love it too..
he loves to joke and tease ppl. i love doing tt too..
he loves me. i love him too..
hes gonna go on his separate way. i have to go on my own separate way too..
i feel scared as the day approach..
once he go a job in singapore,
his mom wld fix a date for his wedding.
once he go a job in singapore,
his mom wld fix a date for his wedding.
wad im praying for is..
i dowan him to get a job now..
so tt his mom wont fixed a date this fast.
at the same time,
i wan him to get a job.
earn some money n be happy.
i dowan him to get a job now..
so tt his mom wont fixed a date this fast.
at the same time,
i wan him to get a job.
earn some money n be happy.
is it my fault to think this way?
i wan him to be happy no matter where he is..
i noe he wld 4get me tt easier.
bcos, the love i hv on him is really huge..
sometimes, u've to let go someone dear to u.
My godsister emailed me this...
i noe he wld 4get me tt easier.
bcos, the love i hv on him is really huge..
sometimes, u've to let go someone dear to u.
My godsister emailed me this...
why is it so hard to get over a love and so hard to let go, you answered your own question thats because you love them and had such a connection with that person.
Break ups are the worst, and I know you loved this guy, but as you said before, he didn't treat you how you deserve to be treated. It sounds as though he was never fully committed to you. Try to recall all the times you felt disrespected when he was late to pick you up, and how hurt you felt when you knew he'd rather be with his friends instead of being with you. Harness those feelings the next time the phone rings. Answer it and be strong. Say that you don't want him calling you anymore. If you can't say those words, than just don't pick up the phone. Don't give him the luxury of having you in his life whenever he feels like it. Pushing him away is the best way to get over him. You know that old saying, "out of sight out of mind?" It works. It will take time, of course, but you need space from him in order to let your heart heal.
Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who's totally in love with you, who wants to spend their time with you, someone who loves you for who you are. Get this old boyfriend out of your life so you can make room for a deeper and more satisfying relationship.
they best way to get over a releantship espically for me is to
Examine what happened and why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this may not be entirely your fault - or not your fault at all.
Accept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt, feel alone, and feel like you have messed up. Accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy, but you must also accept that you are a good person, and this is not all one-sided.
Keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup
Think through everything in your head. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason.
Deal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the "split" was, how it occurred (was there infidelity?
Talk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance
Write all your feelings down. Write ur blog or write poems. Most of all, be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring out your thoughts onto paper
Clean up! A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come.
Keep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person
Find happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take
Stay active. It's scientifically confirmed that exercise improves your mood, and the distraction will help keep your mind off the situation. Go running outside, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step.
Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and harboring hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways, congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.
Take Time. Find a place where you feel comfortable, relaxed, and which is far away from, not only your ex, but from everyone. Take a moment to listen, and to be alone. Remind yourself that it is better to be on your own than to continue in a relationship that was not right for one or both of you
Think Positive Hey, now that you're not with your ex, you can do anything - date anyone, and not have to worry about them. You're free! Of course, don't forget about respecting other peoples' thoughts while feeling released and free. And always remember to be true to yourself
i hope i have helped and you can call me any time
good luck
Break ups are the worst, and I know you loved this guy, but as you said before, he didn't treat you how you deserve to be treated. It sounds as though he was never fully committed to you. Try to recall all the times you felt disrespected when he was late to pick you up, and how hurt you felt when you knew he'd rather be with his friends instead of being with you. Harness those feelings the next time the phone rings. Answer it and be strong. Say that you don't want him calling you anymore. If you can't say those words, than just don't pick up the phone. Don't give him the luxury of having you in his life whenever he feels like it. Pushing him away is the best way to get over him. You know that old saying, "out of sight out of mind?" It works. It will take time, of course, but you need space from him in order to let your heart heal.
Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who's totally in love with you, who wants to spend their time with you, someone who loves you for who you are. Get this old boyfriend out of your life so you can make room for a deeper and more satisfying relationship.
they best way to get over a releantship espically for me is to
Examine what happened and why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this may not be entirely your fault - or not your fault at all.
Accept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt, feel alone, and feel like you have messed up. Accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy, but you must also accept that you are a good person, and this is not all one-sided.
Keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup
Think through everything in your head. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason.
Deal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the "split" was, how it occurred (was there infidelity?
Talk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance
Write all your feelings down. Write ur blog or write poems. Most of all, be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring out your thoughts onto paper
Clean up! A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come.
Keep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person
Find happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take
Stay active. It's scientifically confirmed that exercise improves your mood, and the distraction will help keep your mind off the situation. Go running outside, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step.
Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and harboring hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways, congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.
Take Time. Find a place where you feel comfortable, relaxed, and which is far away from, not only your ex, but from everyone. Take a moment to listen, and to be alone. Remind yourself that it is better to be on your own than to continue in a relationship that was not right for one or both of you
Think Positive Hey, now that you're not with your ex, you can do anything - date anyone, and not have to worry about them. You're free! Of course, don't forget about respecting other peoples' thoughts while feeling released and free. And always remember to be true to yourself
i hope i have helped and you can call me any time
good luck
she does make sense.. but the thing is,
we didnt fight and would be breaking off..
we didnt fight and would be breaking off..
im lost. seriously..
i didnt expect this at all..
many ppl have said,
"Naz, i dun think this wld work out. far distant relationship won't wrk out
furthermore, ur backgrnd and his, dun match."
" he comes frm a conservative village. but u came frm a modern muslim family."
"yes i agree, hes not as conservative as his villagemen are as he spent half of his life in Singapore."
" thing is, no matter wad he did, he has to relate back to his village. if hes gonna marry, he has to bring his mom frm village to here. he has to bring u back to his village for marriage. u can be in singapore for all u wan. but he? wldnt he care abt his family in india?"
"Naz, pls give up this relationship. hes not the only man on earth."
i didnt expect this at all..
many ppl have said,
"Naz, i dun think this wld work out. far distant relationship won't wrk out
furthermore, ur backgrnd and his, dun match."
" he comes frm a conservative village. but u came frm a modern muslim family."
"yes i agree, hes not as conservative as his villagemen are as he spent half of his life in Singapore."
" thing is, no matter wad he did, he has to relate back to his village. if hes gonna marry, he has to bring his mom frm village to here. he has to bring u back to his village for marriage. u can be in singapore for all u wan. but he? wldnt he care abt his family in india?"
"Naz, pls give up this relationship. hes not the only man on earth."
i wanted to prove all these ppl wrong..
i noe this relationship wld work.
i had high hopes and many desires..
until one day, he said...
"my mom is so stubborn. she doesnt wan to listen to me. she said no to singapore gals. she wants me to marry one frm the village. if i still insist on marrying a sg gal, it'd be after her death."
my heart broke into pieces on the spot...
we thought it'll be alrite once he get a job..
he can change his mom's mind...
yday he said.. he cldnt...
tts it.. my desires.. my future.. my life with him..
gone...
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
i noe this relationship wld work.
i had high hopes and many desires..
until one day, he said...
"my mom is so stubborn. she doesnt wan to listen to me. she said no to singapore gals. she wants me to marry one frm the village. if i still insist on marrying a sg gal, it'd be after her death."
my heart broke into pieces on the spot...
we thought it'll be alrite once he get a job..
he can change his mom's mind...
yday he said.. he cldnt...
tts it.. my desires.. my future.. my life with him..
gone...
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
we thought it'll be alrite..
its NEVER gonna be alrite..
we love each other so much tt we cant seem to separate..
god please have some mercy on us...
god please have some mercy on us...
i really wan Asan to be my future...
its not gonna happen....
haiz...
its not gonna happen....
haiz...
my laptop is full of tears now.. i shall continue later or some other time.
we are gonna meet tmr.. =) with zakiyah n me.. we gonna be happy.. and at the same time, hes gonna tell zakiyah, abt wads going on between us..
let me ask u... 2 months from now...
wld u see this Naz happy like u always do?
wld she be sad? quiet? keep to herself?
wld she ever smile again?
wld she be able to pick herself up?
wld u prefer the cheerful Naz who doesnt show her feelings out to others or
do u wan to see the quiet, sad, anytime-gonna-cry Naz?
its up to u.. im seriously lost.. i've nv been like this. my past 2 break ups were alrite..
i now solely depend on those arnd me to help me.. help me get over it.. help me smile.. help me.. please... i dun wish to be like this..
this isnt me... i wan Asan.. i wan everything.. but i cant..
wld u see this Naz happy like u always do?
wld she be sad? quiet? keep to herself?
wld she ever smile again?
wld she be able to pick herself up?
wld u prefer the cheerful Naz who doesnt show her feelings out to others or
do u wan to see the quiet, sad, anytime-gonna-cry Naz?
its up to u.. im seriously lost.. i've nv been like this. my past 2 break ups were alrite..
i now solely depend on those arnd me to help me.. help me get over it.. help me smile.. help me.. please... i dun wish to be like this..
this isnt me... i wan Asan.. i wan everything.. but i cant..
♥ TrappedButterfly
